Some people have never developed their sexual appetite

Some people have never developed their sexual appetite

She chose to have a new “outside” about every year or so. That’s not the “correct” frequency” – it’s what she wanted. Correct is what feels right for the individual.

On another note, why do some readers think they know how much outside experience is “correct” or “allowable”? That’s ok. Some have a great appetite and need many partners on a regular basis and that’s ok too so long as the frequency does not imped on the relationship with their spouse. Don’t some people like to run into their 80’s and some never like to run? We don’t condem one group or the other.

If you and your spouse are in a strong, trusting, highly communicating relationship and not keeping secrets then what the two of you (you and your spouse not you and your outside partner) do needs to please you and not every other person on the planet

Individuals are – well – individual. Your ideas may be right for you – maybe only for you (and yes I realize my ideas may not fit you, may not fit millions of you, but it may also fit millions of you.

Some people seem to feel it’s better to be sexually supressed and pretend that that’s a virtue. The problem with that is that the pretense eventually gets old and often (over 50% of the time according to statistics often cited by various studies) someone decides to have “outside” sex in a traditional marriage. The spouse finds out, or there develops a feeling of attachment (to help justify the sex) or a feeling of frustration with the spouse (again to help justify the sex)and impediments develop to the marriage. (more…)

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